Women from Earth & Martian pseudo-Psychologists

I've read John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" several times. I've always been intrigued by it, but somehow it has always left this certain hollow feeling of having been cheated. I couldn't quite come to terms with the good doctor's rationale of women needing to take a back seat to men's needs in order to find and keep a relationship. Nor that a man is not biologically equipped to deal with emotional issues and that his escapist nature in this area should be condoned.

I'd also read some of Freud's work and was equally as disillusioned by his concept of women as neurotic beings ... more emotionally-strung than rational, and certainly not dependable nor equal beings. I did try (and finally gave up) reading several informative books by these great medical minds on the psychology of men and women ... why a man's differs from a woman's, and how the only way a woman can understand the oddities of her 'better half' is by suppressing her own nature.

I finally came to the conclusion that all these pseudo-psychologists (or apologists) are mostly male (or Martians, according to 'Dr.' Gray) and therefore just don't have any idea what they're talking about. They may have all the theoritical knowledge at their fingertips; they may have all the academic achievements that seems to make them an authority of minds; they may have even tried to prove their theories by linking them to some biological facet. Who cares! These are all irrelevant! They haven't been inside a woman's complex mind; haven't sunk themselves into her psyche; haven't lived in her shoes. Ergo, they know bullocks!

Women aren't from a planet called Venus. They come from Earth. They are not merely emotional beings, they are rational in mind, strong in spirit, and they create the necessary balance that is so lacking in this world. And no Dr. Freuds are going to get away with labelling them neurotics, nor Dr. Grays as passive, highly-strung creatures from another planet. Not if we can help it!

What irks me about all this is that these people use their extensive repertoire to reinforce stereotypical behaviour in a big way. Less knowledgeable people tend to look up to those who "know better" and who would know better than a male who has studied minds? So they are quoted till kingdom come; their advice is taken to heart and followed to the letter; publicity for their 'intellectual' work abounds; and worst of all, their theories become fact!

The upshot of these narrow views from pseudo-psychologists is that there are women out there who keep suffering the injustice of ill-gotten advice, while their menfolk wallow in their inability to make relationships work. So with millions of such drivel being sold as fact, more and more women allow their emotionality to shrivel and die an unnatural death. They have no other recourse but to suppress their true nature to accommodate the inadequacies of their partners! In the meantime, more and more men enjoy the ill-gotten freedom of not working towards compromise. And the cycle goes on .... This is so wrong! For all concerned.

I was pleased, therefore, to come across this fantastic website "The Rebuttal from Uranus". I've read most of it and recommend many women to please read it ... or at least some of it. It's not only interesting but it gives a psychological analysis from the other side ... the female mind. I applaud Susan Hamson who debuted this website. Her work is a tribute to all women. We want her to know how greatly we appreciate her efforts. I urge you to read it.

The Rebuttal from Uranus